“Where are you from?” comes up daily in conversations since
we moved to Asheville. It’s the
question I remember being asked most frequently when we lived in Dubai, a city
with over 85 percent foreigners from every country in the world and a handful
of native Emiratis. Asheville is not Dubai and yet it is a unique small
city in the Western North Carolina Blue Ridge Mountains that has been
discovered by transplanted people from all over the U.S…like us. The conversation usually continues like
this:
“We
moved from Vermont,” I say.
“Oh…where
in Vermont?”
“In central Vermont near
Middlebury and Rutland… in the small town of Rochester,” I reply.
“You
sure got out in time, didn’t you?” the person answers referring to Hurricane
Irene this summer.
“How
long have you been here?” I’ll ask back.
And then I learn they have moved here from southern California or Maine,
Chicago, Michigan or Texas. We have even met Vermonters from Putney/Brattleboro area
in a casual conversation and have become real friends.
Often the conversation will continue
covering mutual interests, why you moved, and where you live in the Asheville
area. There is a friendliness towards the many newcomers that continually surprises me. Here, the
dialogue goes beyond the ”where are you from?” And, if you happen to meet a native North Carolinian they
will immediately rattle off a long list of places you absolutely must see. Our realtor Hope, who happens to be one of the few native Ashevillians I have yet to meet, drove us all over Asheville for an entire day and a half pointing out sights and highlights before we ever set foot in a house for sale. She wanted us to love Asheville as she does.
Meeting
new people in Asheville usually ends with, “Oh, you are going to love it here!”
or “We came for the weather and it’s wonderful.” Or “You won’t believe how much
there is to do here.”
It’s
only been five weeks since we arrived here and I look around my house and marvel that the packing
boxes are gone and things put away in places where hopefully I’ll remember
where they are. A new sofa is in
place in the living room with its high cathedral ceiling, and a large Mission
style table and chairs (very Asheville “arts & crafts”) graces our dining
area. Two new beds are in the guest room waiting to be slept in for the first
time. The last of our paintings collected on our world travels are now hung on
the walls, and our Dubai rugs look like they were made for the dark hardwood
floors in this house. The pantry is beginning to be well stocked, and fresh
yellow mums from the Farmer’s Market on front porch are a sign that 50 Black
Horse Run is lived in.
We
are members of the Center for Creative Retirement at the University of North
Carolina Asheville, the North Carolina Arboretum and the YMCA all in a
month. I now go to Yoga and Zumba
classes and Nathalie, my favorite instructor who handles up to 30 and more to a
class greets me with a cheery smile and a “Hello, Kristina!” I can drive places without clutching
my dog-eared Asheville map or plugging in the GPS and am rewarded occasionally with
discovering a shortcut to get somewhere. I can get to Tyson’s Furniture in the
charming town of Black Mountain outside Asheville and I’ve been lucky to find
bargains at the huge Restore run by Habitat for Humanity volunteers and the
Resale Shop supporting Hospice. Volunteer opportunities are endless as I learned when I met
with a volunteer coordinator, a young woman from Toronto, who is helping me look for a way to use my
Spanish. I now know where and what
Greenlife is - a huge whole foods and organic market similar to my familiar
Coop up north but much larger. I stocked up and “Kristina’s Granola” is back in
production again.
We’ve
gone with the Biltmore Lake Hiking Club to Graveyard Fields (at 5,000 ft.) off
the Blue Ridge Parkway and next Saturday will hike to the summit of Mt. Mitchell,
over 6,000 ft, the highest peak in Western North Carolina. The Duplicate Bridge
Group plays once a month and of course, everyone is from somewhere else and
loves it here. My wallet is
filling up with new membership cards including a library card at the Asheville
Buncombe County Public Library, a mile from home. I walked there on a warm
sunny afternoon the other day. We’ve
biked on the Biltmore Estate with our new Vermont friends who invited us on
their passes and even tasted local wines at the Biltmore Estate Winery.
Perhaps
it’s the openness of people in Asheville that has made me want to dive right in
faster than it has taken to settle in other places. I think about my new friend
Sarah, a tall slim girl with a wide smile in her mid twenties who greeted me at my very
first Yoga class at the YMCA just two weeks ago. After the usual “where are you from” conversation she went
out of her way to catch me afterwards and formally introduce to me Nathalie the
Yoga teacher who had just lead the class.
Then we walked out of class together and she told me she had grown up in
Asheville and gone away to college. She confessed that after college she came
home to visit and just couldn’t leave because “after all, what better place
could there be than Asheville?" I see her from time to time at the Y and she
always has a smile for me. I am old enough to be her mother but I like that she
wants me to like Asheville as much as she does.
Moving to Asheville from Vermont has taught me that that there is much more to “where are you from” than I had experienced. In Dubai, where different
nationalities kept to themselves it often didn’t go much beyond this first question even if you would have liked it to. While as a newcomer it is easy to embrace the friendly atmosphere here, I remind myself occasionally that as a transplanted Ashevillian, I should do the same for the newcomers who just keep coming.


Great intro to life in Asheville. I like your comparison to Dubai and how while all people were "expats" the difference in Asheville is how friendly people are. I know this was what was always missing in Dubai. So happy for you guys you have landed in such a perfect place. Love, Hayden
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